Stop confusing imagination with reality.
          Making stuff up & then believing it is not the way to go.


Avoid the certainty trap. 
          Enjoy the here & now.


Give room to breathe. 
          Give space to develop.


Stop 'mind reading'. 
          Stop assuming we know what another person is thinking when we don't.


Stop comparing current relationships to past ones.


Seek self-assurance.

          Rather than always looking to the other person to make you feel secure in your relationship, get into the habit of reassuring yourself. Start to challenge your own fears & imaginings rather than just accepting them. Ask yourself: “Hold on a second. What real evidence is there for this fear?”

Focus on the good.

          Relationships are meant to be fun. Some ups & downs, but fun nonetheless. Insecure people look for signs of what's NOT working. Look for signs of what IS. Goal is to both feel naturally positive. A good relationship is there for you to enjoy together, to share resources & develop together in healthy ways. If someone really does treat you badly or lies & cheats, then feeling insecure is a natural & justified response. However, if you’re actually in a generally good relationship, then follow these tips because what you have is precious.

Not for anybody in particular. Just a part of what's been smashing me down for awhile. All kinds of things, but I've been taking things day-by-day & trying to maintain a positive & busy attitude. But I do find all of the above true & helpful. Definitely, a positive booster.

**One last thing. Another little thing that has been on my mind/heart/soul for quite awhile now...it kind of pisses me off how everything nowadays is "who you know." I understand that sometimes that's the only way, just don't abuse that privilege & respect the game, respect others & yourself. Be thankful. But whatever happened to true, raw talent being recognized for what it is?